Frequently Asked Questions: Relationship Dos and Don'ts

What helps build a strong relationship—and what should you avoid?

You love your partner and want to invest in your relationship.
At the same time, you may feel unsure about certain things and ask yourself: What might be damaging to us as a couple?
Here are 3 Do’s and 3 Don’ts we’ve put together to support you!

Have your own thoughts or experiences helped you along the way?
Feel free to share them in the comments to encourage others!

💪 Do: Recognise your partner’s strengths and support them
What is your partner naturally good at? What are their clear strengths—and perhaps the more hidden ones? Do you celebrate their achievements? Do you tell them? And do they do the same for you?

It’s about seeing one another with kind and appreciative eyes. Often, it’s these very strengths that first drew us to the other—the unique qualities that make them who they are.

Every person is distinct. Even if there are similarities, each individual brings different gifts to a relationship. That’s what makes you strong together. In a healthy relationship, both partners celebrate each other’s strengths and contribute what they can.
To love someone also means helping them flourish and grow.

💪 Do: Look for what is good, even in difficult times
A crisis does not have to end in despair. It can also open the door to change and growth.

There may not always be an immediate solution, but choosing a hopeful mindset can help you get through challenges. Knowing that you both believe in your relationship and want the best for one another gives strength when things are tough.

There will be moments when one of you feels stronger than the other—and that’s perfectly okay. Encouragement is essential. Sometimes, it’s in these very moments that we realise just how deeply we love and need each other.

💪 Do: Be willing to forgive
This applies to everyday misunderstandings as well as deeper wounds. Forgiveness can be difficult—but when there’s a strong “yes” to one another, it’s worth fighting for the relationship.
That “yes” may be rooted in shared values, children, long-standing commitment or marriage.

Everyone makes mistakes, and often those closest to us get hurt the most. We all need forgiveness. A good starting point is to acknowledge your own shortcomings. Perhaps you’re already struggling with guilt yourself.

Real love means not holding past failures over the other person’s head—but choosing to see them with grace and compassion. Forgiveness often begins with honest conversations and sincere listening.
Many couples who have been together for decades say their “secret” is simply this: they’ve chosen to forgive—again and again.

⛔️ Don’t: Hide things from each other
Not every thought needs to be spoken aloud—but when it comes to important matters, honesty is crucial. Deliberately keeping things from your partner can seriously harm trust.

Sometimes people keep things to themselves to protect the other—but this often causes more harm than good. It may even send the message that the relationship isn’t strong enough to deal with the truth together.

If you want honesty, respect and trust from your partner, you must also offer them. Being open strengthens the bond between you—especially in challenging times.
It shows that you take your partner seriously—and that you believe in your relationship.

⛔️ Don’t: Leave your partner to face hard times alone
Everyone experiences struggles—and it’s in those moments that loyalty truly matters.

This doesn’t mean drowning in problems together—but recognising when your partner needs your presence, comfort or practical support.
Even strong relationships go through highs and lows. At times, plans may need to be adjusted or personal preferences set aside—for the sake of something greater. These moments call for empathy and care—and facing them together can bring you closer.

⛔️ Don’t: Get stuck in ongoing dissatisfaction
It’s normal to feel frustrated now and then. But persistent dissatisfaction can put real strain on a relationship—and on the people around you.

If you find yourself caught in negativity, ask: What exactly is troubling me? Can I change anything? What’s holding me back from doing so?

Each of us is responsible for how we face life’s challenges. Even when we can’t change the circumstances, we can always choose our response:
Do I want to become bitter—or grow through this?

Sometimes outside help is needed—and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. A “gratitude list” can also help shift your focus: What am I still thankful for? What blessings remain—even now?

Wishing you all the very best! 💚