Frequently Asked Questions: What Should I Do When My Partner and I Disagree?

Do We Agree on the Important Life Questions?

Perhaps a recent situation made it suddenly clear that the two of you hold different views.
If this is the first time it’s happened, it’s perfectly natural to feel unsettled—and to ask whether you’re truly compatible as a couple.

But here’s something to remember: couples don’t always have to agree on everything.
In fact, that’s rarely the case with any two people—each individual is wonderfully unique. And thank goodness for that! 🙂

Differing opinions can be a source of enrichment. They can prompt you to reflect, encourage growth, and help you develop a more open heart.

What’s important is that you continue to engage with each other respectfully.
Holding a different opinion should never mean valuing your partner less because of their perspective.

Try to step into their shoes and consider their point of view.
Often, both people actually want the same thing—but imagine different paths to get there.

And as so often in life, things aren’t simply black and white. There are many colorful shades in between.
There isn’t always just one solution—or only one right way.

Maybe that’s precisely what defines your relationship:
That you’re a unique couple who can demonstrate that a peaceful, shared life is possible—even when you don’t agree on everything.

Sometimes, major life questions show up when you least expect them.
It could be an unplanned pregnancy, a job offer abroad, or a difficult event such as illness or redundancy.
Or it might be a key decision, like moving in together or getting married. Other topics could include your career plans or the question of starting a family.

Even life questions that don’t bring such far-reaching change can feel challenging.
It can be helpful to take some time to reflect—what are your thoughts and feelings in this moment.

It’s just as important to know your own boundaries—to be aware of what you cannot compromise on, even for the sake of your partner.
These boundaries may be deeply personal, and that’s okay.
What matters is acknowledging them within yourself.
You are a unique and valuable person, and you deserve to be taken seriously—with all your values, needs, and longings.

And the same applies to your partner:
He has his own views, needs, and limits.
Are you able to talk about those things with openness and care?

Sometimes it can be painful to realise that, in order to stay true to yourself, you may need to take a different path.
Taking some time apart can help.
And in some cases, growth happens—on one side or both—and you may find your way back to each other.

It can also be helpful to talk things through with others.
Trusted friends or family can offer clarity when you feel uncertain.
And depending on your situation, seeking outside guidance can be valuable—especially if you want to find a shared way forward, even in difficult times.

Wishing you all the very best! 💚