Frequently Asked Questions: What Should I Do When My Partner and I Disagree?

Do We Agree on the Big Life Questions?

Maybe there was a moment recently when you suddenly realized that you and your partner see things differently.
If it was the first time this happened, it’s completely understandable to feel confused—and to wonder whether the two of you are truly a good fit.

But here’s the good news: couples don’t have to agree on everything. In fact, no two people ever fully agree on everything—because each person is uniquely themselves. And that’s a good thing! 🙂

Different opinions can actually be enriching. They can encourage personal reflection, promote growth, and help open your heart.
What matters most is that you continue to treat each other with respect.

Having a different point of view shouldn’t lead to thinking less of your partner.
Try putting yourself in their shoes and understanding where they’re coming from.
You may even find that you both want similar things—but just imagine different ways to get there.

And as is so often the case, life is rarely just black or white. There are lots of beautiful shades and possibilities in between.
There may not be only one “right” way or one perfect solution.

Maybe that’s the point:
That you’re a unique couple who can show the world that a peaceful, loving relationship is possible—even when you don’t always agree.

Important life questions can sometimes appear out of nowhere.
It might be an unexpected pregnancy, a job offer abroad, or a life-altering event like illness or job loss.
Or perhaps it’s a major decision you’re facing—like moving in together or getting married. Other big topics could be your career path or the desire to have children.

But even life questions that don’t involve such drastic changes can be challenging.
It can be helpful to take a moment to reflect and sort through your thoughts and emotions—especially when you’re trying to understand what really matters to you in your current situation.
It’s equally important to recognize where your boundaries lie—those things you can’t or shouldn’t compromise on, even for the sake of your partner.

These boundaries can be very personal.
But what matters is that you acknowledge and respect them within yourself.
You are a unique and valuable person who deserves to be taken seriously—with your personality, values, and longings.

The same is true for your partner:
He has his own perspective, needs, and limits.
Are you able to talk about those things openly and honestly?

It can be painful to realize that, in some cases, you may need to go your own way in order to stay true to your heart.
Taking a step back for a while can sometimes be helpful.
And in some situations, time brings growth—either in one of you or both—and that can lead to reconnecting later on.

Talking with others can also be a great source of support.
Trusted friends or family members can offer perspective when you’re feeling unsure.
And in some situations, outside counseling can be helpful—especially if you both want to find a way forward together, even if things are difficult right now.

We’re wishing you all the best! 💚