Frequently Asked Questions: Is He the One?

How Can I Tell if He’s the Right One?

Maybe you’re asking yourself this question early in the relationship—or maybe it’s becoming more urgent because you’re thinking about moving in together, getting married, or starting a family.
Many women wrestle with big and small questions and wonder deep down: Is he really “the right one”?
This includes asking whether you’re a good match—and also whether he might be the right person to start a family with. Will he be a good father?

First of all, it’s a good sign that you’re thinking seriously about this.
Is the question coming up because you want to be sure—perhaps because you’re about to take the next step in the relationship and wish for some reassurance?
Or are you wondering if he’s the right one because something has unsettled you—perhaps a situation or experience that left you feeling hurt or confused?

Even that can already offer a clue and bring you closer to an answer. These questions might also help:

• Do you enjoy spending time together—and come away feeling stronger?
• Can you talk about deep and meaningful things—those that truly matter to you or touch your heart?
• What have you already overcome together? Can you find common ground in disagreements or different needs? Can you make peace after a conflict?
• Do you meet each other on equal footing? Do you see and appreciate one another’s strengths and talents?
• Do you support each other and have one another’s backs? Are you a good team?
• Do you stand up for each other—also in front of others?
• Do you accept each other as you are, with strengths and weaknesses—even when it’s not always easy?
• Do you share common interests or plans? Do you have a sense of moving in the same direction?

If you can answer most of these questions with “yes” then you’re likely on a good path—and have already built a strong foundation for the future.
Of course, there’s no such thing as a complete list or a guarantee—what matters most is listening to your heart and trusting your intuition.

If you find yourself answering several of these questions with “no” and if you feel, for example, that you’re not being treated with respect, that your boyfriend is embarrassed by you, or that you often want to change or “fix” him—it may be a good idea to take another honest look at the relationship.

If you’ve only answered one or two questions with “no”, you might want to explore those areas gently and openly. Talking to your partner with kindness and care can bring new insight.
One or two “no’s” don’t mean the relationship is doomed—perhaps they’re just areas where you still have room to grow together and deepen your connection.

Recognizing Your Own Goals and Deepest Desires

What are the things you long for most in life? What are the values or desires that are so essential to you that you don’t want to compromise on them?

These are the things that touch your inner core—the values and longings that define your life’s direction.
It helps to take time to reflect on these deeply and get clear about them for yourself.
The better you know who you are, the more you’ll be able to stand up for your needs and values.

If, for example, loyalty is something you value deeply, it’s vital that your partner shares that value—or is at least sincerely committed to living it with you.

If having a family and children is one of your core dreams, then it’s important that your partner either shares that vision or is truly open to it.

We’re wishing you all the best! 💚