Arguments For and Against Abortion
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- The arguments for and against abortion differ in each woman, according to her unique perspective. They derive from her personal values
- Some women find it helpful to weigh their reasons by putting them on paper and grading their importance, since the deciding factor is not only the number of arguments, but also their value.
- We have compiled some of the most common pros and cons based on the arguments which are most frequently brought up during our counseling sessions.
Abortion Pros & Cons – Your Self-Evaluation
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The 4 Most Common Pros and Cons of Abortion
Based on our counseling experience, here is a list of the most frequent arguments for abortion and their counter arguments.
⏰ Argument: Timing
Pro Abortion: This is not the right timing to have a baby. Maybe in a few months or years — why now?
Con Abortion: Will the timing ever be absolutely perfect? What would be so drastically different a few months or years from now? Am I even certain that my circumstances will have changed that much? What is keeping me from having a baby right now?
💔 Argument: The Relationship
Pro Abortion: The relationship is brand new or going through a rough patch. We are not even together. His initial reaction to the pregnancy was negative. He does not want the baby.
Con Abortion: How would an abortion affect the relationship? We may break up anyway. The fact that we did not take up this challenge may weigh heavily on us.
It is common for men to need time to come to terms with the pregnancy. In most cases, they become loving fathers who take on the responsibility of parenting.
📋 Argument: My Aspirations
Pro Abortion: I had completely different plans for my life. There is so much I had wanted to do… I don’t want to give that up.
Con Abortion: The best things in life cannot be planned - they just happen: falling in love, a close friendship, or a baby. All of these call for spontaneity. Also, would I really have to surrender my plans - or could they be realized at a later point in time? How could I arrange things so that a baby would still allow for other activities?
😰 Argument: Overwhelmed
Pro Abortion: Physically or mentally, I have reached my breaking point. I could not handle a(nother) baby. That would be too much for me.
Con Abortion: Could this situation be an opportunity to reorient my life? All the areas which have been overwhelming for a while could be reprioritized and reorganized. How would an abortion affect me? Is it possible that an abortion would make me feel worse? Would the additional burden of a traumatic experience weigh me down even further?
Advantages and Disadvantages to the List of Pros and Cons
Making a list of abortion pros and cons can be helpful for analyzing all the rational aspects of a decision. In doing so, you will be able to take stock of your thoughts and concerns — and realize which ones appeal to you the most.
While this list is a perfect place to start, it need not be the end-all be-all. This decision is multifaceted and involves more than meets the eye. As well as limiting the decision-making process to the rational, focusing on a list can also encourage brooding. This would obscure one’s view, rather than leading to increased clarity.
Guard yourself against this by laying your list aside, once in a while. Take a walk or do something else which allows you to distance yourself from overpowering thoughts. Your heart also needs a voice in the matter. But your deepest desires only become audible, when everything else quiets down.
Our tip: When you create your personal list of abortion pros and cons, introduce a point system. How would you rate the importance of each of the arguments? You could use a scale from 1-10. This would give you a better sense of your inclinations, rather than going by the sheer number of arguments. How will you take your strongest points into account? What will need to be reconsidered in order to allow room for your priorities?
It may be helpful to use colors or symbols in order to create categories: Which aspect is about to change? Which issue could be easily tackled and taken care of? Which argument would change if I received support? Which point is most important to me, placing all others in the shade?
I Have Made My List of Pros and Cons — Now What?
You may have already compiled a& list or you took the self-assessment. Either way, you are deeply engaged in the subject in order to be fully prepared. You want to make a well-rounded decision that matches your values and leaves no room for regrets.
Our goal is to provide you with the support you desire so that you can overcome any obstacle that threatens to block your path. You are not alone! Allow us to walk alongside you by providing you with a judgement-free environment in which you can find the path that matches your desires and convictions:
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Thoughts leading up to an abortion are unique to each woman. Many women name bad timing, relational concerns, feeling overwhelmed, or having different plans for their lives. A list of pros and cons can help clarify your proirities.
In as much as every lived experience is unique, everyone's reason for or against abortion is different. Apart from the outward circumstances, subjective motivations can play a huge role. You may ask yourself, "Is there really such a thing as perfect timing?" or "Could this pregnancy, despite being unintended, pose an opportunity?" These kinds of thoughts can also be represented in your list of pros and cons.
Every woman facing an abortion decision will have different pros and cons. Making a list can help you gain more clarity, but it can also lead to brooding. Rather than merely counting the arguments, pay attention to the value you attribute to each one.