Why Women Consider Abortion
What are some of the reasons to terminate a pregnancy? Why do women consider having an abortion? What are some common concerns that many women share? Based on many years of counseling experience, we have compiled the four most common reasons here.
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"Should I get an abortion or not?" is hardly a question that any woman asks lightly or without solid reasons. Every woman who finds herself in this situation has her own unique story. Behind each of these stories hides the same existential question, “How do I go on?”
Usually, there is not just a singular reason for considering abortion. Circumstances are often more intricate and complex.
At first glance, the reasons for an abortion seem obvious: financial circumstances, medical reasons... initially, the unintended pregnancy appears to be a problem that leads to a whole range of seemingly insurmountable obstacles.
A closer look often reveals that the pregnancy may not be the actual problem. The unintended pregnancy just made existing issues more obvious...
Therefore, facing the challenging situation of an unintended pregnancy can also become an opportunity to address precisely these underlying causes.
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Statistics: The 4 Most Common Reasons for an Abortion
Every woman, every relationship, and every pregnancy is unique. But many situations are experienced similarly. Therefore, we were able to compile the four most common reasons why women consider abortion. All statistical data is based on evaluations of our many years of counseling experience.
Reason #1: Timing
"Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans." This slogan hits home for many women who contact us. Thirty-six percent of all contacts experience their biographical situation as challenging enough for abortion to become a consideration. The majority (28 %) specifically mention bad timing as their main reason.
Situations vary greatly: Some women are not finished with their education or job training and want to work toward a career before having a baby. Others may have just started a new job, are still in their probationary period, or are about to switch jobs and therefore experience this as an inopportune time.
General apprehension and uncertainty about the future play a significant role, too. Sometimes one's age is a decisive factor, "Am I too young?" or "Am I already too old for a baby?" Some women may feel like they are done with having children or had never planned on having any.
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Reason #2: Relationship Issues
About 26 percent of women reach out to us because of relational concerns, 15% of which are conflicted about their pregnancy because of the baby's father's initial negative reaction to the pregnancy. Most women encountering an unintended pregnancy look to their partner for support and encouragement. Unfortunately, his initial reaction is often precisely the opposite.
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Many women also find the relationship status challenging when they become pregnant.
The relationship may still be in its infancy, has already ended, or the relational status is complicated in some other way. Perhaps the child's father is not one's partner or the pregnancy is a result of a one-night stand or a friendship with benefits.
Many questions arise in this situation: How will he react? And what will others say? What if I become a single mom? How would I handle that?
Every fourth woman who reaches out to us names these kinds of concerns when considering abortion.
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Reason #3: Overwhelmed
"I have a lot going on right now." "It is all too much for me." "I have nothing left to give." These are some of the ways our clients express what they are feeling.
Eighteen percent of women who reach out to us are conflicted about their pregnancy because they already felt overwhelmed before they got pregnant, or they fear that raising a child would be more than they could handle.
Many women look into abortion out of concern for their other children. The new pregnancy often reveals that this mother of one or more children is already stretched beyond what she can handle.
Single motherhood often adds another dimension of hardship.
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Many women spread themselves too thin by caring for many needs at work and within the family. One or the other is often exhausting enough: A project deadline, starting a business, climbing the corporate ladder, pursuing aspirations... Or perhaps you are dealing with health concerns, obligations (caring for a relative), or other life challenges. This would take a lot out of you!
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Reason #4: Health Concerns and Other Issues
About nine percent of women who get in touch with us are concerned that they may not be able to handle the pregnancy emotionally or physically. Sometimes preexisting conditions or previous complications overshadow this pregnancy.
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Medical concerns relating to the baby are comparatively rare (2%). But an abnormal finding in a diagnostic test can make you feel like your world is crumbling apart.
Financial concerns because of low income, debt, or unemployment are the most significant hurdle for seven percent of women. One percent of women feel pressured by family members, their employer, cultural norms, or other factors to get an abortion.
Another one percent of women reach out to us because they conceived by rape.
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You may have recognized yourself in the situations described above… or perhaps your story is entirely different. Either way, it is worth looking beyond the obvious reasons for considering abortion by digging deeper into the underlying causes.
By doing so, your present hardship can turn into an opportunity for you to:
- become aware of what is important to you in life.
- work on your relationship and thereby grow even closer to your partner.
- find out what is worth living and fighting for — and lay the foundation for it.
- take time for self-care amid these difficulties.
If your mind is reeling during this process and you feel unsure about your next steps, use our free digital counseling tools! Getting an objective view of this challenging situation may help you recognize how to overcome this obstacle and perceive a way forward.
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