When Anxiety Becomes Overwhelming Pregnancy Scare

Pregnancy Scare

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Worried I Might Be Pregnant — How to Fight the Fear and Gain Clarity

  • Are you afraid that you could be pregnant? Maybe you are concerned because of timing.

  • Although you may not be pregnant right now, you are probably familiar with the fear of getting pregnant. It may sneak up on you now and then. Many women experience feelings of uncertainty and apprehension about a possible pregnancy.

This article addresses pregnancy scares, how to deal with them, and how to handle specific situations.

Worried About Being Pregnant on Birth Control

Although you used oral contraceptives or other forms of birth control, you are afraid that you may still have become pregnant. Usually, this concern is triggered by being new to a particular form of birth control. Understandably, fear can easily creep in when you suddenly need to "rely" on something. But even after extensive experience, the fear of getting pregnant can still arise for various reasons.

Try to stay as coolheaded as possible while analyzing the reason for your suspicions. Did you accidentally skip the pill for a day, or has its effectiveness been compromised by another medication or a stomach bug?

Perhaps you have started noticing symptoms that point toward a pregnancy.

Becoming pregnant on the pill is theoretically possible since no form of contraception is foolproof. It can fail if you miss a dose or because of interactions with other medications. Nevertheless, the Pearl Index of 0.1-0.9 is relatively low (0.1-0.9 in 100 women on birth control become pregnant — only 1-9 in 1000).

Therefore, the likelihood of you being pregnant is rather small.

  • 📗 Wondering whether you are pregnant on the pill? Evaluate your situation by reading more ➡️ HERE

  • 🤔 Wondering whether your symptoms are signs of pregnancy? Take the Pregnancy Symptom Test and receive an immediate professional evaluation.

  • 💊 Wondering whether to take the morning-after pill? Take the Test ➡️ HERE, and receive an initial assessment.

Scared of Being Pregnant Because of a Late Period

Most women have probably experienced this scenario before: Having a late period and wondering about being pregnant. This may be what you are going through right now. You are scared about a late period.

Of course, a missed period can signify pregnancy, but not necessarily.

Even if your cycle is usually regular, it can be delayed for various reasons. Your body is not a machine; your cycle can be affected by external circumstances such as stress, changes in diet, or routines. There are multiple reasons for your period to be late. In most cases, menstruation eventually starts, eliminating any concerns.

Therefore, the best thing to do right now is to remain as calm as possible, even if this is easier said than done.

When your period is (over)due (or at least two weeks after the sexual intercourse in question), you can gain clarity by taking a home pregnancy test. Find more information on urine-based pregnancy tests HERE!

  • 🤰🏻 Receive an initial evaluation of whether you could be pregnant by taking our Online Pregnancy Test.

  • 🤔 Are you experiencing additional symptoms which may point toward a pregnancy? Are you wondering which symptoms are typical for pregnancy? Read more ➡️ HERE.

  • 🧑‍⚕ Consult an OB/Gyn or a nurse-midwife, especially if you are experiencing pain or vague symptoms. Wondering how soon to see a doctor? Read more ➡️ HERE, or take the Test.

Pregnancy Scare — How Do I Get Through It?

You might be familiar with the following thoughts:

“The timing would be terrible.” “My plans are completely different, and I am very busy at work." "How could I have a child with him?" Or even - “Being pregnant right now would be a disaster."

You are not the only one who feels this way — Many women experience these thoughts when they suspect a surprise pregnancy.

If the timing does not seem suitable for whatever reason, your thoughts may start to race, triggering anxiety.

Pregnancy Scare Hacks:

  1. Gain Clarity

If you are dealing with a specific situation where you could have become pregnant, you are probably consumed by anxiety.

Even if it is not easy to bear, you will have to wait it out. A home pregnancy test will only be conclusive if taken after your period is due or two weeks after your sexual encounter. Then you can know for sure. If you prefer, you can also have your pregnancy status confirmed and questions answered by a medical doctor.

  1. Understand Your Menstrual Cycle

In this context, you may find it helpful to track your monthly cycle. Your observations can help you understand what is happening inside your body and when your monthly fertile window occurs.

For more information, click ➡️ here.

  1. Confide in Someone

Try not to keep your fears and concerns to yourself. Is there someone you would feel safe confiding in (your partner, a relative, a close friend)? If you cannot think of anyone, you could contact your local pregnancy resource center.

Worried about Accidentally Getting Pregnant

Perhaps you are relatively sure that you are not pregnant right now. Nevertheless, you are worried that you could become pregnant.

Or you had a pregnancy scare before and still remember the roller coaster of thoughts and emotions...

Maybe you hold your breath every single month before your period is due out of fear of being pregnant.

Going through this cyclical anxiety would be exhausting in the long run.

Perhaps the following thoughts will be helpful to you:

What Is the Source of My Fear?

Fear is not a pleasant feeling. However, there are different kinds of fear.

One type of fear protects us from exposing ourselves to danger. Another kind of fear can indicate that something in our lives needs adjusting. This fear becomes a catalyst for change, encouraging us to live in harmony with our values. Yet other fears need to be overcome by facing them courageously.

Perhaps it would help you to consider the nature of your fear and the specific reason for it.

If you are generally more cautious and anxious in all areas of life, consider how you have dealt with fear in the past. Have you learned coping skills which you could apply to this situation?

Discover your personality type and your strengths:

🖍 Everyone probably learns at some point that not everything can be controlled or planned. It may be helpful to make yourself aware of this by admitting, "I can't control everything - but I have the confidence that if something unexpected happens, I can use it for good."

In this context, consider the worst-case scenario. If you should become pregnant - what would be important to you then? Who could stand by you? What help and support would be available to you?

💛 If you feel that the fear relates to something specific, it may be worth taking a closer look and asking yourself:

Why exactly would pregnancy be associated with so much fear right now? And: Is there anything I can do about it?

If, for example, a possible pregnancy scares you because you are under a lot of pressure at work, it may be helpful to consider changing professions.

Fears can become opportunities to reorient your life.

My Partner and I

A pregnancy scare can wreak havoc on any relationship. This is normal, as it may signal significant change.

It may be helpful to consider the "what ifs" in advance as a couple.

How do we want to react if it were to be the case? What is important to us as a couple, and how do we feel about it individually? Would we manage if the unexpected happened right now?

🛡️ Open conversations can strengthen your trust and relationship and disarm your fears.

Perhaps your fear of getting pregnant is also related to you and your partner not agreeing. Maybe your partner has even said that he cannot imagine having a baby at the moment. Or your relationship may be rocky for other reasons.

💌 If this describes your situation, it is crucial to be aware of what your heart is telling you and to communicate your emotions and desires. Your life matters! Stay true to what you believe and take the path that is right for you.

By the way: Men often have specific fears about pregnancy, too. They may worry about finances or about being a good father. It may be helpful to talk openly about this. Learn more about how men commonly react to an unexpected pregnancy and how you can respond ➡️ HERE.

Are you feeling anxious because you are in a complicated relationship and don't know how you would deal with an unintended pregnancy? Click ➡️ HERE for advice.

Tokophobia — Fear of Pregnancy

Some women express an intense fear of pregnancy. This is known as tokophobia.

Like other anxiety disorders, the symptoms include outbreaks of sweating, psychosomatic symptoms, and acute anxiety.

Note: Many women feel some trepidation during pregnancy. This is normal to a certain extent and is not considered tokophobia. Emotional perceptions are often also intensified by hormonal shifts in early pregnancy.

If you are hoping for a baby, fear of pregnancy can be tough to bear.

On the other hand, when dealing with a surprise pregnancy, the feeling of the unexpected is added into the mix, which can intensify one's anxiety.

🙌 Support is available! It is crucial not to place yourself under pressure or to make rash decisions driven by fear.

Receiving the care you need from loving individuals, such as your partner and family members, will give you the greatest chance to overcome your fears and allow you to thrive during pregnancy. Professional counseling may also be helpful because tokophobia, like any other anxiety disorder, can be treated with therapy.

🧑‍⚕️ Your gynecologist or midwife may also provide some reassurance: If your medical provider is aware of your anxiety, they are more likely to take more time to answer your questions in detail.

These things can provide you with a greater sense of security and support.

Solutions can be found if your fear is mainly related to the birth (e.g., because of complications during a previous birth). Some women find that a planned cesarean relieves some fears, while others draw comfort from having a home delivery.

Are you already pregnant and feeling anxious?
➡️ Click HERE for additional advice.

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