Unplanned Pregnancy FAQs

The Key Facts at a Glance

 

 

1. Can You Get Pregnant With Contraception? 

Yes, it is possible to get pregnant while using contraceptives. No form of contraception is foolproof. Even if you follow the directions perfectly, your method of contraception is still statistically proven to fail in a percentage of cases.   

Personal circumstances also play a role in the effectiveness of contraceptives. A stomach virus could render your birth control pill ineffective. Other medications, such as antibiotics, could cancel out the pill. Condoms can be defective or tear. Therefore, pregnancies can happen despite contraception. Should your period be late, you would be well advised to take a home pregnancy test, in order to be sure. 

 

2. Unplanned Pregnancy – Now What? 

Finding out you are pregnant can come as a real shock. Especially when the pregnancy was unintended, reactions can differ greatly: joy or fear, despair, or the feeling that this may have happened for a reason. Each scenario homes in on the same thought, “What do I do now?” 

This state of confusion is completely normal and understandable. Culprit is the major hormonal change which marks early pregnancy. Emotions usually stabilize, along with your hormone levels, a few weeks into the pregnancy. Even though you may desire to make a decision as quickly as possible — so that you can “put things behind you” — it would make sense to wait it out, anticipating that you will be able to think much more clearly just a few weeks down the road. 

Many women are glad to have taken the time for their emotional chaos to settle so that they could look back on their decision with no regrets. 

 

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3. I Am Pregnant and the Timing is not Right… 

Perhaps your career plans or personal goals do not include a baby right now. Maybe you wanted to have a baby one day, but not now. Or perhaps you find yourself in a complicated situation… 

There are many reasons why this might not seem like the best time. 

Has this pregnancy taken you completely off guard? Had you been occupied with other things, which now seem pointless? 

More than ever, this is a time to take a step back in order to get a better view of the path you want to take. What would match your values and priorities? Could this be an opportunity to re-orient your life? Could this unexpected surprise be a blessing in disguise? 

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4. I Am Pregnant and My Partner Does Not Want the Baby 

Of course, you would want your boyfriend or husband to stand by you in such a time as this. Instead, he is giving you the cold shoulder, seems rejecting, or even aggressive. Unfortunately, this initial reaction to an unplanned pregnancy is common. Remember these two things: 1) You are not responsible for his reactions. 2) His negative reaction does not mean that he is not “the one.”. 

Men have a completely different understanding of pregnancies than women — even if the pregnancy was planned. Just like you, your partner may be in shock — but he does not have the advantage of experiencing any physical changes. The matter remains more abstract to him. He may also interpret the news as an unspoken expectation; that he would now be responsible for you and the baby — an overwhelming supposition. 

But it is possible for him to grow into this role. In counseling, we have seen time and time again how a skeptical boyfriend transformed into a loving father. He just needed more time. 

 

 

5. Pregnant From an Affair – Now What? 

You are pregnant – but sure that your husband or boyfriend is not the dad? It would be normal to feel as if your whole world were falling apart. You may be afraid that this is how you will be found out. 

Even though a pregnancy gets thrown into the mix while you are involved with two men, know: It is your choice. You may feel very conflicted right now, but there are a number of good solutions for you and your men

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6. Pregnant and Single 

Are you pregnant and not planning on being in a relationship with the dad? Or are you already a single mom and expecting another baby? It is understandable that this would raise many questions for you. You may also be concerned about how you would manage to take care of everything. 

You may find it helpful to realize that “single” need not be equated with “alone”. Even if the dad is not in the picture, you can enjoy close relationships with friends and family, and receive the practical support you need. 

 

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7. Pregnant in a Difficult Situation 

 

A surprise pregnancy can send you into a major tailspin. The circumstances may not feel right or might even pose great challenges. Your lived situation is as unique as you are. 

This probably means that your situation cannot be compared to that of others. Does this cause you to feel overwhelmed or alone? 

We have compiled some articles on several possible scenarios. Do any of them speak into your situation? Feel free to check out our homepage for more options. 

 

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8. Anxious and Unsure What to Do? 

 

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