Single Mom — Nightmare or Feasible Option?
A baby is on the way, but the relationship is crumbling or is already over: Where do you go from here? This article is for anyone considering single motherhood.
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Scared of Being a Single Mom
An unintended pregnancy usually raises questions about the continuation of one’s relationship. Issues are exposed by the new and challenging situation, which may have needed to be addressed for quite some time.
There are several possible scenarios: The father says that he wants nothing to do with the child; or the father shows no reaction. Both situations would make you wonder: "What if I end up single and pregnant?"
Single motherhood - anxiety about this possibility is normal and understandable. An unknown challenge usually triggers fear, especially if it has to be faced alone.
Experiencing the sensation of fear is also a revealer of compassion for your baby. This may be your first expression of love for this baby who had announced itself so unexpectedly.
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How Can I Deal With This Situation?
You may be familiar with the precept, “If you are very fearful of something, try to prevent it with all your might — but also be prepared for it to happen.”
Keeping the hardships of single motherhood in mind may motivate you to make it as easy as possible on the father of the child to join you in this parenting journey. At the same time, you cannot force him into it.
Taking this attitude makes you an active participant in life, rather than being relegated to a spectator role. You are also allowing him the freedom to make choices, without putting him under pressure. The best case scenario would be for him to choose you and your child.
Testimonials of Single Moms
How do single mothers describe their lives? In a nutshell: “It isn't always easy and sometimes even very hard, but also indescribably wonderful. I wouldn't trade this life and child for anything.”
Self-confident single moms also like to point out that there are also advantages to single motherhood. Here are some of their arguments:
💯 100 percent love
Being a single parent means being there for your children 24/7. You are the most important person in your children’s lives and they give you 100 percent of their love in return. Mom gets to enjoy all the fruit of her labor.
Moms agree: “When you feel a little one happily snuggling up to you, you know that it is all worth it!”
In a family lead by a single mother, everyone has to work as a team. As the children mature, they will increasingly contribute. Early on, they already know that they and their mom make a good team. The majority of single parents have a particularly close relationship to their child.
💪🏻 Development of soft skills
Every day holds new challenges - some come completely unexpected. Many single mothers manage to structure everyday life in a way that they are not easily rattled by little surprises. Organization and improvisation are key.
These soft skills are not only useful when dealing with the kids, but are also a great asset in other situations.
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👥 Sharing Life
Many mothers find it a relief to know that they are not the only ones in this situation.
That is why blogs in which single mothers share about their lives are so popular. They provide the opportunity to find humor in the chaos of everyday life, to exchange thoughts and to encourage one other. Some well known blogs are: Beanstalk and The Single Mom Blog.
"I don't know if I can - or want to - do this"
Maybe you have read this far, but still feel unsure or hesitant, because you don't know if you are up to this challenge — or if you even want to be.
Pregnant and Alone? It Does Not Have to Be That Way!
Being a single parent whether for a short period of time, indefinitely, or even permanently, does not necessitate loneliness. Maintaining relationships with friends and relatives will be of increased importance. Having the support, conversation and comfort of others is priceless!
If you lack a supportive environment right now, you may want to seek out a pregnancy class or a mother-toddler group in your area.
In time, many women also find their partner for life. Don't lose hope!
Finding Your Path in Life
In this challenging situation, it is crucial that you find your own path. You are well equipped for what lies ahead, utilizing your own unique set of strengths and abilities. Now it is up to you to determine how to make the best of this situation.
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